There are ways to let your new special lady know you’re thinking about her without coming off as cheesy or being overwhelming. In fact, as a woman who is currently swimming around the dating pool, if at least some of these simple yet thoughtful gestures are not put in place within the first month or two – I can’t say I’ll be sticking around for too long!
This can be a tricky one. While most people I know in their 20s and 30s are avid texters, there are the select few who like to keep it old-school and just pick up the phone and call. Or, they simply don’t have the time and patience to immerse themselves in back and forth texts all day. What is key are those short and sweet daily messages to let your special someone know you’re thinking about her. It could be the good morning/goodnight text, or that one text in the middle of the day to let her know she crossed your mind. Trust me, if she’s as excited about dating you as you are about her, this small gesture will have her smiling ear to ear when she reads it.
2. Send her flowers.
So classic, so simple, and yet so overlooked nowadays. There is nothing that makes a woman feel more important than flowers being delivered to her. The best part? They are inexpensive yet more thoughtful than most gifts you can give a girl when you’ve been dating her for only a month or so. Her spirits will be uplifted, and you’ll light up her office while her coworkers secretly envy her. Try a pretty bouquet like this one by Danes Florist, for only $32.95:
3. Ask her out on proper dates.
What happened to the days of asking “would you like to go out to dinner with me on Tuesday night – say, 7pm?” What I’m hearing more and more are these casual “hang out” requests. Women like to be asked out on real dates, where you are thinking about her in advance, considering her time, her schedule – not just calling her like she’s an afterthought on a Wednesday evening and asking if she’d like to “hang” later on. After a certain point in the relationship you will be comfortable enough to be able to make those last minute calls, but even then a scheduled date here and there is necessary to keep the romance sizzling. Don’t get me wrong – this is a two-way street; she should also be asking you out in this manner when it’s her turn.
4. Indulge in her interests.
Perhaps she enjoys a certain type of movie, play, the museum or a sport. While she’s starting to learn about and participate in your interests, make sure you pay mind to hers as well. Relationships are about compromising, and it’s a great way to set the tone early on. If you like this woman and want to be a part of her life as much as you want her a part of yours, tell her you’d love to meet her friends or take her to that chick flick she’s been dying to see. And watch, the next time you want her to accompany you to that new Bruce Willis movie, she should gladly accept.
5. Invite her out with your friends.
After you’re past the phase of really getting to know your lady through multiple solo dates, try inviting her out with you and your friends once in a while. She will naturally start getting curious about them if she really likes you, and making this move will give her a feeling of inclusion in other areas of your life besides the dimly lit dinners for two. Perhaps you could even invite her to bring a couple of her friends along the next time you’re heading out for drinks or a game of pool with your boys. It’s a good way to see if she fits in with your circle and lifestyle too.
Happy dating fellas, and to those who already follow these pointers, bravo!
- 5 Ways to Keep Your Lady Happy It goes beyond saying "yes, dear" - March 21, 2013